FAQ

I get many similar questions from time to time, so I thought I'd start a page where I can direct people to them.  To be honest, most of these were posts first, but it was getting tiring to repeatedly search for them to answer their questions... so I put them all in one place.  Hopefully, I'll add to this as time goes on.  

Last updated:  12/28/12


What advice do you have for a beginner into bondage?

First off, I refer everyone to the wonderful video made by Ben in Leatherland, the basic 2 column tie:



Sometimes if you search, you can find other various ties on YouTube as well.  Just try your luck.

And secondly, there's a great website called Twisted Monk that has an entire free section of video demonstrations of various bondage ties. It's where I learned to make a body harness! You will have to put up with a few female (clothed) models, but sometimes we have to sacrifice in the name of education.  :)  There's another basic site called Lord Tierman that does not have videos, but pictorial guides to other various knots and ties.

In terms of gags, I found a great blog entry on Leather. Bondage. Love about how to make the ideal duct tape gag.  You won't be disappointed.  It does appear to be time consuming, but also very effective.  Even I had no idea how detailed a good gag can be!  And the model is pretty hot too.  So it's a win-win.  Also, The Master and His Slave has a great article detailing what to look for in different types of gags, as well as some safety and how to tips.

And one of the classics, which I bought way before the internet, is the book Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook.  A great read, and very educational.

Be careful about practicing self-bondage.  While most of us have started that way, it can be dangerous if you're careless.  Have safety scissors nearby at all times, and always have a way to access and use them.  Don't tie anything so tight that you begin to lose any circulation.  This goes for any bondage, really.  You should always be able to wriggle a finger or two into any tie.

As far as places to get various bondage equipment and supplies, visit my Shopping page.



How do I become your online slave?

So perhaps you're interested in being an online slave to me.  First off, I cannot guarantee full-time enslavement.  I have a full time job and relationship, and those do have to come first.  I also do not do any C2C (in fact, I don't even have a webcam).

While I'll play with nearly anyone a few times casually, there has to be some chemistry between the two of us for something longer term.  That chemistry has to be mutual, of course.  If things are looking serious, I'll have an "equal" talk with you, and we'll establish any limits, and then go from there.

Also, I'd like to point out right away that I love working with new, beginner slaves.  It really turns me on to know I'm working with someone who's eager to please, and is interested in getting their first experience with online slaving.  And online is a very safe way to go about it.  I respect the slave's limits, and I never post pictures of any session unless I have the slave's permission to do so.  You can look through this blog and see that any possible face pics I posted of slaves have been blurred, cropped, or not posted at all


Still interested?  Then here's my demands and rules summed up.  It looks like a lot, and may be overwhelming if you're a novice.  But we can take things slow if you're not certain, and don't be afraid to ask questions. 

• For one thing, I like the slave to be younger than me (but over 18, the legal age here in the USA).
• Since I already have a full time job and relationship, don't expect constant attention.  You'll be doing my bidding frequently or infrequently, at my whim.  You'd just be a disposable toy to me.
• The ability to send pics and video of yourself.  Although I might not show mine.  I'm not here to please you.  You should be willing to show your face and body to me, at least over time.  NOTE:  Such pics would remain private, between us, unless you give me permission to post them.  I do respect your privacy.
• You should also have similar interests as me:  feet, bondage, humiliation, abuse, and possibly gunge.
• I like humiliating guys and forcing them to do demeaning things.
• You would need to purchase a dog collar and bowl, and other various supplies as I see fit to abuse yourself with.
• Also, if you really want to be a slave, then beg for it. Send me a short email pleading and begging to me why you should be my slave, and what you are willing to do for me. When you do, all references to yourself should be lower case ("i", "me", "slave"), and references to me are capitalized ("You", "Sir", "Master").  A good slave has to follow my directions.  The more you plead, whimper, and properly obey, the more of my attention you'll have. 

I do have a Yahoo and MSN/Windows Live profiles, but I pretty much only use them when chatting with slaves.  If anyone is interested in infrequent or one time sessions, contact me, and we'll see what I can arrange.  But I make no promises, and please don't take it personally if it doesn't work out, or I ignore you for long stretches.  Sometimes it's more my schedule and availability than my actual interest.




Where can I find Superhero costumes/Lycra?

I'm not going to lie, I typically order them on eBay or Milanoo from Chinese vendors.  The prices are good, as is the quality, and they are very good about customizing outfits--such as adding a crotch zipper, detachable hood, etc.  Just visit eBay and enter "lycra", "zentai", or "spandex" into their search engine, and the hero you're looking for.  You'll find a host of options.  While the prices are generally good, do be aware that the international shipping could be quite a bit extra... so don't forgot to account for that when budgeting.  Some including the shipping in their price, and some don't.  Read carefully in that respect.

There was also a great article about this on Superhero DEFILERS.  Part 1 talks about various places to find costumes, and Part 2 discusses where to find accessories.

But if you want to buy American, try Spandexman.  Good selection, and while the prices look higher, shipping isn't as bad either.




What are some of your favorite scenes you've done?  What would you do to me?

In terms of online slave play, Brett, SBS_justin, and Restwalker have been the hands down favorite.  Not to mention the little "competition" I placed between the latter two.

In terms of real life play, I don't honestly play that often outside of my BF.  And if I do, there is no sex or nudity on my end.  But that said, I've had two memorable occasions in my past:  Pacset, and Ticklishguys.  And I did get to tie up one straight guy.  If you're more into feet, I did have some fun feet play with a straight 20 year old with size 14 feet.  Thought you'd be interested.  ;)

If you want to see more, just click the "Slave" label on side sidebar.  There's a lot more of SBS_justin, Brett, and Restwalker, as well as a few other surprises floating around here...